How becoming a mother has changed me

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Celebrating my daughter’s birthday, got me thinking about how becoming a mother changes people and lives.

Six years ago I became a mother for the first time. Before then I was a girlfriend, an editor-in-chief, a stiletto lover, a partygoer, a traveller, a good friend and a fashion enthusiast. Becoming a mother instantly changed me. From the moment I held my daughter for the first time, some of the things mentioned above didn’t matter anymore. Some things are still important to me, like being a good friend and a caring girlfriend, but more than anything being the best possible  mother to my kids and bringing them up to becoming thoughtful human beings is now the most important thing in my life.

 

Below is a list of 10 ways in which I have changed since becoming a mother:

– I care more about someone else’s wardrobe than my own. If someone had told me about this 7 years ago, I would have called them a crazy liar.

– I hate travelling alone. I used to travel alone all the time as part of my job and back then I would love to arrive to a new hotel room and have it all to myself. Now I get a stomach ache when I’m away from my family for more than a night or two, even though I know, that they’re having the time of their lives, doing all the things only their dad would allow them to do.

– I wear Birkenstock sandals instead of high heels. Before I got pregnant, flats were for Sunday brunch and very late work nights only. Now I don’t even own a pair of stilettos.

– I fear death. Not that i didn’t before, but I would never really think about it. I do now.

– I have learned to cook meatballs. Who would have thought.

– I no longer follow the fashion trends. Before becoming a mother, fashion was one of my biggest passions, and I loved to travel from Copenhagen to Milan or New York just to spent all my time watching models present the latest fashion collections on the runway. After becoming a mother, fashion became just a job, and I would be happy to stay away from Paris, New York, Chanel and Chloé if it meant I wouldn’t have to say goodbye to my daughters. I don’t even know what Chanel’s latest collection looks like, and to be honest, I don’t really care either.

– I don’t mind leaving my house without makeup.

– I appreciate my own company more than I did before. I love being with my children, but a bit of me-time makes me a calmer and nicer person.

– I have given up on some of dreams, but found some other ones along the way. My career used to be one of the most important things to me, and even though it still matter, right now it makes perfect sense putting it on stand by for some years and spend my time and energy with my kids instead.

 

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Fejringen af min ældste datters fødselsdag fik mig til at tænke over, hvordan det at blive mor, kan ændre personer og liv fuldstændigt.

 

For seks år siden blev jeg mor for første gang. Før det var jeg kæreste, Chefredaktør, stilet-elsker, festabe, rejsefreak, en god veninde og absolut mode enthusiast. Fra det øjeblik, hvor jeg første gang holdt min ældste datter i mine arme, var der nogle af de ovennævnte ting, der ikke længere betød noget som helst, og aldrig kom til det igen. Andre ting var stadig en del af mit liv, men i en mindre skala. For over alt, så er det nu det, at være en god mor og bringe mine døtre op til at blive gode mennesker der har betydning for mig.

Her er en lille liste over måder hvorpå jeg har forandre mig, efter jeg er blevet mor:

– Jeg tænker mere på mine børns garderobe end min egen. Hvis nogle havde fortalt mig at det ville blive sådan for syv år siden, havde jeg helt sikkert kaldt dem en løgner.

– Jeg hader at rejse alene. Der var engang, hvor jeg pga mit job hele tiden rejste afsted bare mig. Og jeg pleje af elske det. At have et helt hotelværelse bare mig, var lykken. Nu får jeg ondt i maven så snart jeg forlader mine børn i mere end en nat eller to.

– Jeg går rundt i Birkenstock sandaler dagen lang. Førend jeg blev gravid, var flade sko forbeholdt søndagsbrunchen og meget sene arbejdsaftner. Nu ejer jeg ikke længere et par stiletter.

– Jeg er blevet bange for at dø. Ikke, at jeg ikke var bange for det før, men det var bare ikke noget jeg tænkte over. Det gør jeg nu.

– Jeg har lært at lave frikadeller. Hvem skulle tro det ville komme dertil.

– Jeg følger ikke længere med i alle de nyeste mode tendenser. Førend jeg blev mor, var mode en af mine største passioner, og jeg rejste gerne halvt omkring jorden, for at se modeller gå ned af et podium iklædt alt det nyeste. Nu ved jeg ikke engang hvordan den seneste kollektion fra Chanel ser ud. Og helt ærligt, så er jeg også fuldkommen ligeglad.

– jeg har ikke længere problemer med at forlade huset uden makeup.

– Jeg sætter mere pris på de få minutter, jeg får lov at nyde i mit eget selskab. Jeg elsker at bruge tid med mine børn, men at have bare en time helt for mig selv her og der gør mig til et roligere og bedre menneske.

– Jeg har opgivet nogle drømme, men fundet nogle nye. Min karriere plejede at være det vigtigste overhovedet, og selvom det stadig er af stor betydning, føles det lige nu helt rigtigt at stille den lidt på lavt blus i nogle år, for istedet at kunne bruge min tid og energi med min familie.

 

1 Comment

  1. Tina May 10, 2015

    Very recogniseable! Lovely post.

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