On baby names and knowing (or not knowing) what to name your baby

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When I was a child, I wanted my name to be something else. Something more adventures, something that would make you think of girls who lived in forests, who could speak to animals and who were never afraid of the dark. For a while I thought of myself as Tusnelda (a rather weird and quirky danish girls name), but throughout my teenage years, I settled with the name my parents had chosen for me. I’m named after my father’s grandmother, and even though I never met her, that seemed to make sense to me.

These days, I’m getting ready to welcome my third daughter, and though I feel quiet prepared (I still have to visit the hospital, figure out where the baby is going to sleep and what stroller we’re going for, but that’s all things I know how to do) there’s one big question that keeps popping up, a subject we constantly return to, and that my two older girls find quiet amusing to try and find a solution to.

We have no idea about what to name our new baby sister. People keep telling me, that it will come to me, when we see her, and maybe it will. But I’m not at all sure. To me, choosing someone else’s name is a big responsibility. It will be a big part of her, it will be a defining piece of her identity for the rest of her life and hopefully it will be something she can relate to. I still love that my eldest got to choose her own middle name, and that she picked it from one of her favorite characters; the strong and adventurous girl in the book and film Fantastic Mr. Fox.

We have written lists, been through our favorite filmmakers’ heroine characters, googled baby names on what seems to be the entire internet and even bought a book on baby names. Still we have settled on nothing. The ones we seem to like the most have either already been used by someone we know, are impossible to pronounce in either danish or english or seems just a bit too ordinary. Maybe we’ll go with Coffee, River or Silver Sparkle Rainbow as my two older daughters keep suggesting. Or maybe we will just stop thinking about anything else than what we like ourselves and go for something that will cause problems in one of our languages, be on all the top 100 lists of popular baby names, give way to many associations to all the wrong things or go for one of the names that our families really don’t like. As long as it will make my daughter believe that she can talk to animals, go on adventures and never be afraid of the dark, I really don’t mind what anybody else is thinking.  I just can’t wait for the first time I’ll kiss her little cheek and tell her, what her name is.

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  1. maria December 16, 2016

    Det var præcis sådan, da jeg ventede Elinor. Vi havde mange navne og ikke rigtig nogle. elinor var aldrig på den liste! og tror hun var 3-4 uger før vi kunne beslutte os nogenlunde. eller det var faktisk jacob, der tog beslutningen. hun er meget mere en eli end en elinor. men jeg kan godt lide tyngden af navnet, det er et robust navn, og fint på samme tid. da jeg var teenager drømte jeg om en eleanor 🙂 det kom jeg i tanke om forleden, så måske det elinor giver fint mening alligevel. aner ellers ikke, hvor det kom fra. og olivia var bare en olivia. det var dejlig nemt.

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    • kh@kathrinehoue.com December 21, 2016

      Jeg elsker navnet Elinor (men måske kommer det ikke som en stor overraskelse for dig… kan man have én Eleanor og én Elinor?? 🙂 ) og Olivia er faktisk også et af mine yndlingsnavne og ret langt oppe på min liste.. Desværre er der allerede to af mine veninder der har brugt det til deres døtre, så det er desværre også på vores no-go liste. Finder det ret stressende, at der er så mange “ting” at tage hensyn til ifht at navngive sit barn!

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  2. Pernille | MorMedHjertet December 20, 2016

    Det er så pudsigt, det med navne. Vi har to børn og en datter på vej til foråret og alle tre gange har jeg bare vidst det rimeligt hurtigt i graviditeten. Og min mand var endda med på den. Men det med at gå og summe over det i månedsvis, synes jeg bare lyder så hyggeligt <3

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    • kh@kathrinehoue.com December 21, 2016

      😉 tanken om at summe over navne lyder egentlig også hyggelig på mig, men efterhånden synes jeg kun vi render panden mod muren, og at intet navn vi kommer på med fungere! I mine øjne er I så heldige, at I allerede har navnet for jeres marts barn på plads… for håbentlig kommer falder der også snart et ned i hatten hos os! 🙂

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      • Pernille | Mormedhjertet December 21, 2016

        Haha, ja måske er navne-græsset grønnere? Jeg ved ikke hvad dine smukke døtre hedder og man vil jo nok gerne at navnene passer bare en smule sammen, men om det er en inspiration, kan du her få de navne, vi havde i spil denne gang (som det så ikke bliver)…
        Esther
        Selma
        Leah
        ines
        Isobel
        Og så fik vi jo en Uma sidste år 🙂 God fornøjelse med “jagten”. Kh Pernille

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  3. Pernille January 18, 2017

    Du skal ikke vælge mit navn i hvert fald. Det er umuligt at udtale i udlandet. I hvert fald uden at få tolv forskellige (forkerte) versioner af det. Hvad med:

    Vera, Ina, Astrid, Flora, May, Kamma, Milla, Jenny, Mollie, Ophelia, Elvira, Matilda, Tilda, Ivy, Camille

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    • kh@kathrinehoue.com January 19, 2017

      TAK for forslag!!! De er virkelig værdsat. Det er helt sikkert nogle danske navne der bare må droppes når man bor her! Bare Kathrine skaber så meget besvær fordi ingen forstår at stave til det.
      Ingrid er faktisk på vores top 3 liste lige nu. Synes det er så fint, det eneste er bare forskellen i udtale på engelsk og dansk. Jeg kan simpelthen ikke finde ud af om det er ligemeget eller ej…. ??

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  4. Pernille January 19, 2017

    Jeg glemte helt en favorit: Ingrid

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